When I delved into the world of floristry, I knew I wasn't signing up for the traditional shop-owner role, complete with staff to manage. But what I didn’t anticipate was the solitude. I even joked about it on Facebook a few weeks back, but there's truth in jest: it all comes back to you. Sure, you're the boss making all the decisions, but you're also the creative mind, the accountant, the delivery person, the receptionist, the social media manager, and let's not forget the ever-important bucket scrubber! It can get lonely, with no one to bounce ideas off or simply chat with. I know it was my choice. However, over time, I've learned there are ways to alleviate the loneliness and not feel so isolated.
During lockdown, I stumbled upon an online florists' group. It was a lifeline during those tough times, having people who understood the struggles, especially fellow solopreneurs. It provided motivation and a support network that I will be forever grateful for.
Being my own boss is fulfilling, but sometimes, it's overwhelming – not the creative aspects, mind you. It's things like managing social media that can be draining. I recently took a break from Facebook, and oh, the liberation! Sometimes, prioritising your own well-being and mental health is the best gift you can give yourself.
We often place so much pressure on ourselves, especially with the constant expectation to maintain a social media presence. I have also learned it’s ok to ask for help sometimes, especially with areas that are just not my forte, reaching out to people who are good at the things I struggle with, gives me back the time to focus on the things I love and enjoy most about being a funeral florist.
To combat overwhelm, I love to experiment with my flowers whenever I can. I've also enrolled in a couple of creative courses – one focused on art and meditation, a gift for the heart and soul, and the other, a willow obelisk workshop. What I've realised is, we don't 'play' enough as adults. As kids, playing was second nature, but somewhere along the line, we lose touch with the gift of playing. Engaging in playful activities transports you, brings joy, and alleviates stress.
So why not give it a try? It doesn't have to be elaborate – pick some flowers from your garden and arrange them in a vase or pick up a colouring book and pencils. You'll be surprised how at peace and in the moment, it can make you feel.