Did I intend to become a florist? If I'm honest, I'd probably say no! After having kids, I knew I wanted to pursue something creative because my previous job as a civil servant didn't really interest me. While it had its moments, I wanted to find something that truly sparked my passion while still allowing me to take care of my children.
Discovering My Passion for Floral Design:
Discovering my passion for floral design came several years later after attending college courses and gaining experience. I started by arranging wedding flowers, which I enjoyed, but it was the funeral work that truly ignited my passion. It's not just about the flowers and creating a design, it's also about listening to the client. Looking back, my experience in the office job actually provided a good foundation for this. As an officer of the Public Trust Office, I was accustomed to helping people who were unable to manage their own finances. It required delicately discussing their needs with their representatives.
As a visual person, I tend to sketch out a few ideas and write down my thoughts when designing a funeral piece. Then, I step away and let them sink in. If it's a complex design, I may consider various options before making a final decision. Ensuring the mechanics of the design work before even considering the flowers allows me to focus on choosing the right foliage and florals.
Inspiring and Crafting Unique Tributes:
Inspiration for my designs often stems from conversations with clients. We discuss how they remember the deceased, including funny moments, unique traits, and passions. It's a privilege to hear their stories. However, it can be challenging at times, especially when I'm surrounded by an entire family with different preferences. Emotions can run high, and my previous office experience comes in handy as I navigate these situations with sensitivity, acting as a mediator. I prefer not to rush people, but decisions need to be made, so I gently guide them toward a conclusion regarding the design.
Navigating Grief and Emotional Resilience:
Attending client meetings can be quite stressful sometimes because I never know what to expect. However, I rely on my judgement and experience to offer advice and guidance. As a sensitive person, I sometimes find it difficult not to become emotional, especially if I know the family well.
However, I believe this is what makes my work personal, as I can empathise with their grief. It's a responsibility to ensure the arrangement reflects their desires, and I am willing to go the extra mile to make it special. The little touches can make all the difference: a football badge, a wheatsheaf, a bee, knitting and needles—these help bring back fond memories. Sometimes even a particular herb or flower because it reminds them of their loved one.
When the work becomes difficult, the first thing I do when I get home is relax with a cup of tea. It's crucial for me to maintain my physical health as it positively impacts my mental well-being and stamina. So, I often take my dog for a walk and enjoy playing a few games of tennis.
If you’re looking to pay your final respects to someone special in your life, but need some assistance in choosing funeral flowers, you can read my blog here. Alternatively, get in touch with me directly here.
